Brandy Buckel shares her birth story in this week's blog post. Thank you, Brandy, for allowing us to share your story!
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Being a plus sized girl, when I was pregnant I was already overweight. I was 4'11 at 185lbs and wore a size 16. I didn't care about my weight when thinking about how I wanted to labor; it wasn't even an issue but I found out quickly while at my first visit to the birthing center that weight DOES matter. I was told if my BMI hit 50 I wouldn't be able to labor at the center. I KNEW i wouldn't hit that but it still kind of hurt to hear.
Unfortunately the center closed down halfway through my pregnancy so I sought out a facility with midwives. At one of my first few visits I was asked about my plans for labor. Of course, like always, I held my head high and went on about how I wanted a natural, unmedicated, non intervention, vaginal birth. I was then told **being over weight makes it harder. If you can't climb a flight of steps without getting winded you are going to have a hard time having a natural birth. It's like a marathon, you wouldn't show up one day to do one without training would you? Try to get a little more physical so it will help you out**
Truth is, I DID get winded walking up the steps, I couldn't walk and talk without losing my breath. However being headstrong and knowing what I wanted, I let it go in one ear and out the other. I was mad at that midwife for judging me on my weight, for assuming I would have a harder time because i was bigger. Truth be told, I didn't get any more physical and I actually gained 32lbs that pregnancy. I let what the midwife said go and tried to avoid scheduling any appointments with her with the fear of getting criticized again.
It just so happens that at 40+6 when I went into labor she was on call. I labored at home as long as possible and decided to go in once my water broke and I noticed meconium. When I arrived at 5am on 6/29/14 i was already 5cm. I was hooked up to the monitoring which was protocol for 20 mins or so and received a bag of fluids for being dehydrated. My midwife came in at 6am and unhooked me from everything and let me get into the tub. I laid there with the jets, breathing through my contractions and listening to motown. I wasn't in there for more than 15-20 minutes before getting uncomfortable and having to reposition to my knees leaning over the side of the tub.
She came in to ask how I was doing and I told her I had to go to the bathroom. She then made me get out and get in bed. I pushed for a couple contractions and breathed through a few as well, got into a couple different positions and finally at 9:37am on 6/29 I gave birth to a 8lbs 6.6oz 20.25in POSTERIOR baby girl VAGINALLY UNMEDICATED. Never during my whole labor did I think (this is too hard, I can't do this). I was so happy that the midwife who told me that my weight may cause an issue was there during my delivery, then praised me for being a first time mom, having a bigger posterior baby and doing so all natural. I know she was looking out for me and giving me a heads up at my prenatal appointment, but plus size girls CAN birth too! <3 <3